Dear Justice

By Justice · The Mainstream
Published May 15, 2012

Dear Justice

I don't know if this is a question you can answer but I thought it was worth a shot. I have a disabled son that is in a wheelchair and I really want to have some fun with him this summer. Do you have any ideas on what I can do that he can participate in? I feel bad when he gets left out. Thanks in advance for any advice you can give me.

—Anxious for summer

Dear Anxious,

I understand what it feels like to have disabled children and wanting them to be included. I also have a special needs child. The way I see it, there aren't many things that he cannot do as long as you are willing to put forth a little extra effort. If you go to the river, lift him out of his chair and hold him in the water. (Kids are much lighter in the water so this shouldn't be too difficult even if he is an older kid) If you go camping, push him around the woods in his chair and teach him about the things you find in nature. If you go to the fair you can go on rides with him. Most fair workers will even let you ride for free if you are accompanying your disabled child. There is usually a creative way to include your special needs child in most of your summer activities. If you do run into an event or two that is just not accessible, make arrangements for your child to spend some time with a family member or friend while you attend. He will be busy having fun and so will you. Then no one feels bad or left out. Every parent has to leave their children out of certain situations regardless of ability. Do not feel bad if you go do something without him. You deserve to do something for yourself now and then. I am sure you will have a great summer.

Sincerely,

—Justice